Practical Steps into Becoming the Peaceful Warrior

Practical Steps into Becoming the Peaceful Warrior

Jun 19
Practical Steps into Becoming the Peaceful Warrior

Anger is generally a destructive force. While it could be used toward some good by building something up rather than breaking something down, anger often comes on too suddenly and hormones are rushing through a person’s brain when the time to make a decision comes. That state of mind can make it difficult even for level-headed people to make the right choice – it’s effectively like acting under duress.

Because of this, I recommend trying to keep calm throughout the day, rather than succumbing to those small, annoying things which can so quickly pile up at work, at home and elsewhere. It isn’t necessarily an easy thing to do, but learning how to better deal with those small annoyances will help a lot later on, when something more serious happens. Think of it as a kind of training for the mind rather than the body.

There is no panacea for anger or a short temper. Like improving yourself in many other ways, getting a better handle on your anger is going to take some time and practice. If you follow these practical steps when you feel rage building, you can help abate it and not get so worked up.

Breathe Deeply

You’ve probably heard something about taking deep breaths to settle down before, but it’s still a step many angry people ignore or fail to recall when they get mad. More oxygen in your blood means more oxygen in your brain, which is what’s behind your decision making process. That one sharp breath could give you the little bit of clarity you need to prevent yourself from overreacting to a tense situation.

Consider Perspective

Getting angry isn’t an excuse to go crazy and do something violent or obscene. You have to consider your perspective before you let anger get the better of your higher thought processes. You’re not someone who has no control, and you know the difference between right and wrong. Don’t forget about that just because you get mad at something – or somebody.

Remember Some Anger is Justified

While actions people perform in anger may be hard to condone, the act of getting angry itself is nothing to be ashamed about. It’s a perfectly natural response to being slighted, hurt, lied to or otherwise cheated in some way. Attaching a stigma to getting angry can cause some conflicting feelings when it does happen, which might make it harder to do the right thing when upset. You may not be able to control getting angry, but you do have control over how you act out those negative feelings.

Should You Be Angry?

If you’re facing a situation and you aren’t sure if you should be mad or not, the odds are very good you shouldn’t be. Every little thing that happens shouldn’t get a reaction out of you as if it were something serious or major. Not only does this go over poorly with others, but it can lead to many sharp spikes in your blood pressure and pulse throughout the day.